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Something Usher Would Sing About
The most obvious part of forming a friendship comes from the momentous occasions. Friends remember that great night, the boring study sessions, and definitely the ugly arguments.
But what goes into maintaining a relationship? There’s truth to the notion that maintaining a friendship is just continuous formation. As long as the big things keep happening, there’s nothing that can go wrong. I disagree.
I believe that part of maintaining a relationship lies with the small stuff: the little things that a stranger would never pick up on. It’s the little trademarks of each friendship that matter and keeping them alive. Answering the phone with the same greeting, or while at a meal you directly point them to the page they’ll find the most preferential entrees.
And sometimes things add up: The mundane or the lack of routine. The exhaustion of new learning’s. Sometimes it’s just that only one person initiates the dialogue, and the relationship as a whole. I actually hate that. I try not the get caught up in that “game” of I-called-first-now-it’s-your-turn, but folks, if that’s a little thing – it will matter one day.
As long as that balance is there, your friendship will remain and grow. Just, be sure you’re both there when coming up with the definition.
But what goes into maintaining a relationship? There’s truth to the notion that maintaining a friendship is just continuous formation. As long as the big things keep happening, there’s nothing that can go wrong. I disagree.
I believe that part of maintaining a relationship lies with the small stuff: the little things that a stranger would never pick up on. It’s the little trademarks of each friendship that matter and keeping them alive. Answering the phone with the same greeting, or while at a meal you directly point them to the page they’ll find the most preferential entrees.
And sometimes things add up: The mundane or the lack of routine. The exhaustion of new learning’s. Sometimes it’s just that only one person initiates the dialogue, and the relationship as a whole. I actually hate that. I try not the get caught up in that “game” of I-called-first-now-it’s-your-turn, but folks, if that’s a little thing – it will matter one day.
As long as that balance is there, your friendship will remain and grow. Just, be sure you’re both there when coming up with the definition.
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